Both passages have water at the center. Water is a fundamental need of all living things. When something fundamental is threatened we react with anger, and even violence. Our prayers turn into demands or bargains.
We all live in Meribah and Massah at times. The place of contention is always there, and can be as destructive as the incident here. It could be with a boss, at home, at church. It can be directed at a leader, a project, or even God. They complain, but don’t lift a finger to help, like a child expecting Mom to know where their socks have gone. After a while, we start to get used to Meribah, even enjoy, and make sure that conflict is cooking. Water cools the heat of the strife here.
At a spiritual level, the Massah, the place of testing, is more dangerous. Who are we to put God to the test? Notice this is not a test of the people. God does not like being treated as having demands made. They seem to forget the miracles just performed, and they demand to know how they are going to get the help they need right now. Their thirst threatens their trust. As they learn to become a free people, they are learning about being leaders and followers, and the hand of God. They will venture on to the very presence of God at Sinai and receive the Ten Commandments and the regulations that will mark them as a functioning polity.
Living, spiritual water is a fundamental need. I feel the need to remind us that this woman was no ancient Elizabeth Taylor. She had no choice in either being widowed or divorced. It may well be that she works so hard that she has to be getting water at a hot time of the day. Her relationships have dried up. Her hopes may have dried up. She has to lug heavy water jugs. Now Jesus tells her of an easy source of water. Unlike Nicodemus, she is speaking with Jesus in broad daylight, not under the cover of darkness. She does not make a disagreement the occasion for a fight, either, even though plenty of animosity existed between Jews and Samaritans. Then, unlike Nicodemus, she starts to get it. Not physical water, but the refreshment we all need will bubble up from the inside, our own personal well. Living water is also the water of life, inside and outside. I find it significant that she left her water jar to go tell the news to the folks in town. The spiritual takes precedence of the physical here. Jesus is giving her a spiritual gift of a well to which she can return morning, noon, and night.
I hope that some of the people of Israel could be grateful every time they had a drink of water in the desert as a gift. I hope that the Samaritan woman’s life got easier. Even if it didn’t, I hope she remembered her encounter with a stranger where a drink of water turned into a discussion of the nature of god, that god loved her enough to give her living water. The living water bubbles up within us when we face the Meribahs in our lives and try to handle disputes with some maturity. The living water rushes in when we look at the unused staffs we have in our hands to draw upon help when we need it. The living water pours down when we feel alone and abandoned and someone takes the time to listen to us. The living water washes our eyes and we are able to see the staff in our hand, one that has been there all the time, and we find the capacity to use it. The living water nurtures our trust in God. We know well tht water is a most precious resource, especially after a dry summer. The living water is inexhaustible and always available.