Sometimes the church
takes too many things for granted. It doesn’t speak about the
process of forgiveness enough, and we don’t speak of judging
others or being judgmental enough. Repeatedly Paul says we are not to
judge each other. In this case a group, lax about eating requirements
such as kosher or Sabbath regulations, is called the strong. The weak
would be the group with strict eating regulations on religious
grounds.
In a remarkable ethical
stance, Paul urges us to use the needs of those with whom we disagree
first. Since the strong don’t have an objection, they can
afford to be generous in their actions. Go the extra mile; go out of
our way to be solicitous toward the opinions of others. They should
be tolerant about things they consider non-essential but others
consider essential. Rigidity may appear strong, but its inflexibility
is its downfall. Think of bridges that require some give in order to
stand up to the loads they bear.
It is an act of
arrogance to use the self as the model for others We tend to make
small things matter of principle, instead they are merely
preferences. Can one prove a preference that red is better than blue?
In pre-marital work, I’ve heard people talk about the “right”
way to fold towels and unwind paper towels. Then we take a preference
and try to cram it down other people’s throats. We say it’s
superior and should be the standard for everybody. We are so insecure
that we grasp at straws to and bolster our fragile sense of self.
Judging from
appearances is a murky business. . We cannot peer into a heart. We
use cues, often-false cues about a person’s qualities from
small matters. In social psychology, when attribute negative or
positive qualities to others then people assume that those qualities
apply to us. (More examples here)
Judging falls under the
category: none of your business-not your job or scope. Watch what
you require of others. The fundamental question is this: Does this
serve Christian love for my brother or sister?
So often, we imagine
God as a judge: angry or at least deeply disappointed. Perhaps we
imagine a fearsome prosecutor. Who are we to replace that judge? The
story goes further. As Barth said, Jesus Christ is the judge judged
in our place. It is as if the bench is vacated and we have the Spirit
as our defense attorney, our advocate.
Here and in the next
chapter, Paul tells us to welcome one another, since God has welcomed
us. Welcome has the sense of welcome to our family. Welcome, not
despising, not being scornful of the other builds Christian
community. If God is welcoming of people, then who are we to withhold
welcome?
Uncertainty and doubts
dog us all. We compensate by judging others. That’s why Paul
urges us to be clear in our own convictions. We can all be sure that
God is with us, and God looks past the trivia we so consistently
build up into mountains. We can look forward to a world where we are
not so judgmental. Look at the progress we have made in terms of race
and gender in the last fifty years. I suppose we will move past being
judgmental in heaven. We will find a welcome and so welcome others in
God’s care.